Get desired Behavior from Kids - How to Discipline kids?

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You keep on telling your child to do a particular behavior like putting their shoes in the shoe rack, put their books back in bag after homework, don't throw the mud, they just don't seem to listen. Whatsoever you try, they just are not ready to take the words of their parents and behave properly.

So how one can provide positive discipline to the kids so that they can listen to you and act properly at home and at public places? We all want our kids to be happy, respected kids who can find their right place in the world of adults. They should not be the ones who are tagged with spoilt brats.

Styles of parenting for positive disciplined kids

There are many parenting styles which have been making round among parent groups which gives evidence of challenging kids and their success stories for parent to follow. Are they really effective? Let's first see what are the different styles and then see how they fit and in what circumstances. The American Mental Health Association defines following ways of parenting:

1. The Authoritative parents - These parents have very effective communication mechanisms and they clearly dictate their expectations and consequences towards their children. They are generally very caring and loving for their child. They believe in flexibility and problem solving is achieved by keeping children in discussion about what they want and they are expected to do. This is by and large most effective form of parenting.
2. The Authoritarian parent - These types of parents have very clear expectations, but show little to no affection towards their children. They just say, this has to be done this way and that is it.
3. The permissive parent - These parents are every affectionate towards kids do not show their expectations or discipline to the kids. It is less effective form of parenting.

Parenting for Better Disciplined children Tips

• Always Neutralize the Arguments between the parents and children. Sometimes the less you say, the more clear you are for your kids.
• Use positive reinforcement more than the negative reinforcement. You should target on rewarding the good behavior rather than punishing for bad behavior.
• Be a role model for the child for good behavior - The child of a soft spoken person has more chances of becoming soft spoken. All the children are smart and they imitate you in all what you do. So pull up the socks and do the best of your behavior for the kids to follow it through.
• Positive discipline is the technique that teaches the kids a new behavior if they misbehave. The opportunity is taken and they are taught the lesson on lives expected behavior.
• Use a Point System for the home. Give points for good behavior and take away points for bad behavior. Simple!!
• Do not loose eye contact with child while speaking to them about discipline. The seriousness is lost of you try to wander your eyes here and there while speaking about good behavior.